Sometimes, life is unfair.
Bad things happen to good people. Accidents, disasters, cancer, break-ups, divorce, unemployment, the list goes on. You have to deal with whatever come your way, and, most of the time, it doesn’t seem right.
The question that comes up is, can you find happiness and joy, even when things are going badly?
Since we were young, our parents and teachers taught us a world view. Generally, this view was a mix of religion and family philosophy. If you are like most of us, you’ve been bombarded with the notion that if you are good, you will be rewarded; and if you are bad you will be punished.
But, things don’t always act in accordance with these rules. We see that good things happen to bad people, and that bad things happen to good people. As we grow older, we see the world can be a cruel place. We discover that the things we were taught, are not necessarily true. So, what do we do?
How do we find happiness and joy if we’re hurt or disappointed?
One important answer is forgiveness.
We can learn to forgive when bad things happen. This is not to say we should welcome bad things, but when unfortunate things come our way, we must learn to forgive and accept that bad can come into life out of nowhere. Learning to forgive will help us to move on more quickly.
When you open your heart and mind to forgive both your teachers and life itself, meaning God, Mother Nature and our fellow man, you give yourself an incredibly precious gift. You open yourself to the joy of life, by putting bitterness into perspective you allow yourself to find happiness and joy. This is a blessing.
Life can simply be unfair.
We can, and we must, mourn losses. But we may have to forgive our concept of God or a childhood that did not teach you that bad things do indeed happen to good people.
The following are some easy ways to reclaim your peace of mind. By thinking about these actions and then using them to help when you feel unhappy can help put us in a better frame of mind, thus making us happier and more joyous.
Have a sense of Personal Mission. Your life counts. It is a blessing that you are here. Figure out your personal mission. Are you part of the problem or part of the solution? Do you give to your friends, help everyone grow, find a way to provide a helping hand? Do you make more love happen in this cold world? By having an awareness of who you are and having direction in your life, you can be a force for good.
There’s joy in living your life as you were meant to live it.
Work at Staying Healthy, psychologically, spiritually and physically.
Do you take good care of yourself? It is not loving to allow others to take advantage of you. There is a joy in knowing that you are protecting yourself and that you are proactive in taking care of your health as well.
We can’t help others if we neglect ourselves.
Embrace the Good in all things. You have been hurt; maybe badly, but there is no good answer in this world for suffering. It’s the human condition and some suffer more or less than others. Just realize that it’s one thing to be a victim but quite another to become a victim of your victim-hood.
You are still a person with dignity. Grab whatever good is around you and embrace it. A neighbor who cares; a brother who comes through, a beautiful day that warms your heart. There is joy out there, even if you have to dig deep.
Learn to Accept Everything. This does not mean to deny or forget that bad things happen, or that others have wronged you. You need to make peace with the bad things in your life. To forgive does not mean to forget. Acceptance means to protect yourself as well as let go of the victim attitude that can poison your life. Don’t allow an abusive ex to hurt you anymore. Get the protection that you require. Vote against a government that may have failed you. Distance yourself from people who let you down when you need them the most. But, let go of toxic anger that only will make you sick.
There is much happiness in being free from hate.
Practice the Art of Forgiveness. Sometimes you must grieve in order to forgive. You go through the classic stages; denial, bargaining, anger, depression and then acceptance. You choose to forgive in order to live life fresh and realistically. Once you learn to forgive the people and events that have occurred, liberate yourself by opening up to the goodness of the world. Whether it was a divorce, a troubled child or a bad health scare, it’s necessary to mourn the unfair nature of the universe and come out of it with your dignity intact.
Life is not easy for any of us. Deal with the bad and accept that it’s not fair. Learn the lesson you receive and make whatever changes to your life that will keep those situations from happening again.
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